Wednesday, October 27, 2010

What is your biggest pet peeve topic from FetLife?

"What is your biggest pet peeve topic from FetLife?"

Strangely enough, jaelina's biggest pet peeve topic on FetLife is third person.  It seems that ninety percent of the replies given on this topic are negative responses about how third person erases the slave's personality.  she can understand where this thought process comes from, as some Masters/Mistresses/Dominants do use third person for this reason, but not All do, and it seems that many fail to realize this.  jaelina has even recieved e-mails on Fet Life stating that she would be avoided because she speaks in third person and there for *must* have no personality.

It is sad to her, that so many have this opinion of the use of third person speech as in her personal experience with using third person, it has not only *not* taken away her personality but it has enhanced her personality.  When she refers to herself in the third person, she is not saying that she, as a person, does not exsist.  For jaelina it is merely a physical representation of her place as a slave to her Master.  For her, jaelina, the girl who speaks in third person, the one who gives her devotion and love to her Master, the one who feels that serving her Master is her purpose in life, *is* who she is.  Being a slave *is* her personality because it is who she wants to be.  Not because her Master has forced her into submitting, or broken her down so low that she no longer has any self asteem.  The truth of the matter is that she has much more of a self asteem than she had when she entered into this relationship with her Master.

Another thing that is said alot is that it is annoying to read or hear, and many have said they avoid speaking to one who does use third person.  In her opinion, they are losing out on the possibilty of making a meaningful friendship.  Just because one speaks in third person does not mean she has no opinions or experiences on and in life.  In fact, she has many opinions because her Master allows them. 

Also, it has been said that the use of third person makes the slave appear ignorant.  If anyone has ever used third person for an extended period of time, or even a short period of time, they would know that using third person correctly takes intelligence and creativity.  her Master certainly has not instructed her to speak in third person to "dumb her down".  If He wanted to do that, would He not simply restrict her from speaking, reading, or having any real experiences?  Instead, jaelina's Master does the exact opposite.  He encourages her to talk with others, to give her opinions and to read and learn.

Lastly, how does speaking in third person impose another's protocols on other people?  Is one asking that person to speak back to her in third person, or even to agree with her use of third person?  No.  Simply, she asks that people respect her Master's decision to instruct her to use third person and realize that it is not about them.  In any Master and slave relationship, it is about the Master.  So if the Master has chosen said protocol, and the slave is doing so to please Him, and even herself, why should it bother anyone else?

Just a few thoughts to ponder.  Thank you for reading.

Master ShenLong's slavegirl, slave jaelina.


  1. jaelina!
    i am SO excited that Sir gave you permission to keep a blog :)
    The negativity surrounding third person speech bothers me as well. In a world where people in this lifestyle are already frowned upon, I hate seeing the negativity within the lifestyle against how someone chooses to live there life.
    In getting to know you, the third person speech was something I had never encountered before but it never really bothered me because it wasn't an issue where I felt pressured to speak third person. It doesn't take away from who you are at all, because it is part of who you are. You are a smart, confident, well-spoken young woman whom I am absolutely grateful to know!

  2. @keri -- thank you for your kind words of encouragement. It is an honor to know you as well, and she is happy to have you as a dear friend in Master and girl's life.

    Master ShenLong's slavegirl, slave jaelina.